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A wrecking ball of bad news; my heart broken and demolished into a zillion pieces.

Today, while in the waiting office of my pain management dr, I was scrolling through facebook, when I suddenly saw something that ruined my entire rest of my day; A friend of mine in St Louis, Missouri, Mr. Mike James, passed away overnight.

I met Mr. Mike James in 2012 while I was in halo traction at Shriners Hospital for Children-St Louis; he worked at Cabela’s and the company would come to the hospital once a month for “Cabela’s night” where their volunteers would bring educational things about Native Americans, animal trapping, hunting stuff (no weapons) just pictures or like duck calls. It was a highlight of the month for all of the patients to enjoy.

I was one of the oldest patients there, so the adults would often talk to me about “Where I was from,” “what I liked to do,” “If I had ever been to a Cabelas,” stuff like that, and a few of them got close with me because of my “spunky attitude,” these included Mr. Mike James, his wife Nancy, and our mutual friend Beverly Duval. They were there through it all- my surgery, my recovery until I went home, when I went back for checkups, when Beverly hosted me for a week for spring break, my first boyfriend, and they had just met my fiance’ and he approved of him, even liked him, and planned on attending the wedding next year. Now he’ll just attend in spirit.

One week and a day ago, we were having dinner with you and your wife. One week and a day ago, we were laughing and chatting and catching up, you and my fiance’ were talking “hunting, guns, Trump, politics, all kinds of things.” Plans were made to attend my wedding next year, talks of us thinking of possibly moving near you and your wife, plans for you and my fiance’ to go hunting together. 
Now you are gone, back to heavenly home and everyone left behind are in mourning. 
You were one heck of a guy, Mr. Mike James. I will miss your comments on my facebook, I will miss seeing you when I go up to St Louis. It feels like a bad dream that I cant wake up from. I wish I could just wake up and this nightmare not be real. It feels like someone punched me in the stomach. it feels like a giant lump in my throat. It feels like my heart has shattered into a zillion fragmented pieces. 

😥 RIP Mr. Mike James. I know you def. earned your angel wings. 

❤ Fly High.

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Found out more news on my grandmother. :'( Really not good.

A knot formed in the pit of my stomach. I know when hospice is called in, it is bad, but this just tore me up to the point where I am now debating whether I even want to go see her before she passes. I was talking to mom earlier today, talking about how if I could, I would have my wedding now so “Mommee” could be there for it, and she told me, “you haven’t seen her; she cannot open her eyes or communicate.” 

I remember when I went to see my other grandma on the day before she died; sedated, unresponsive, eyes closed, her tongue had a greenish pale color to it, I knew she wasn’t doing good and had a gut feeling that she wouldn’t make it. However, instead of remembering just the good times when she looked happy and healthy, a lot of times, that was the image that haunted me even after her passing. I don’t know if I can handle going through that again. 

At the same time, I don’t want any “regrets.” So I am so conflicted right now 😦 I wish this wasn’t happening. 

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My thoughts on “Touched by Grace” Movie- April 2019

 My mom has amazon prime for a while and gave me her account info so I could watch some movies. One movie I had been wanting to see was “Touched by Grace,” a movie that I consider a cross between “Carrie” and “Wonder,” because the mean girls of the movie pull the same kind of prank on Grace that they did to Carrie, except they didn’t pour blood on her like in the mean girls in Carrie.
   The movie doesn’t end happily. Even sadder is there are people like that out there in real life who bully those who are differently abled and can’t help being differently abled. It teaches good lessons though. But the saddest fact is this is something that people of different races, religions, nationalities, disabilities/non-disableds, face bullying each and every day. Even Jesus was “bullied” by those who thought differently and were jealous of him. He was wrongly persecuted and sentenced to death. Those who are differently abled usually have multiple problems along with their main diagnosis, whether it be seizures in addition to their autism ordown syndrome, bad hearts and in need of donors, asthma, etc. We never know what could be a consequence of our actions. A “harmless prank” (bullying) could end up costing someone their life. #EndBullying#EndHate#StoptheViolence#WeareAllHuman#TouchedByGrace#Wonder#TreatOthershowYouWanttoBeTreated#GoldenRule